In spite of my post last year, I decided to do this Valentine's Day meme that I saw on Kimberly's blog. I still think that Valentine's Day sets people up for unfulfilled, imaginary expectations. Some guys are romantic by nature, and some guys aren't. If your man isn't, you are putting a ton of pressure on him to perform, whether you realize it or not. Trevor works with a kid who is dating someone, and he was so stressed out over how to plan Valentine's Day. Since a card and dinner don't appear to be enough these days, guys are spending enough money for a car payment on impressing their significant other.
OK...I'm slowly backing away from my soap box now. (And trying to ignore the dismal use of tenses in the previous paragraph.) Did I get my husband a card this year? Yes. Did he get one for me? No. Do I care? Not in the least. Do you know why? Because I started my morning by rolling over into his sleepy, warm chest and felt his arms go around me. Happy Valentine's greetings were exchanged and I was happy.
Didn't I say I stepping off the box? So, here's the meme, if for no other reason than to stop me from talking any more...
♥How long have you been together? We've been married almost 12 years.
♥ How long did you know each other before you started dating? 11 years (we were friends throughout Junior and High school.)
♥ Who asked who out? Trevor called me when he was on leave from the Navy for our normal dinner and catch up session.
♥ How old are each of you? I am 37 and Trevor is 36.
♥ Whose siblings do/ did you see the most? His brother Will (they live 6 houses down from us!)
♥ Do you have any children together? Yes, Nathan (7) and Grace (4)
♥ What about pets? Yes, one cat named Zoe
♥ Did you go to the same school? Yes, that's where we met. We both played trombone in the band.
♥ Are you from the same home town? We grew up in the same town...I moved there from Louisiana when I was 4.
♥ Who is the smartest? We are both smart in different ways. He is an engineer, so there is NO way I could compete with that kind of intellect, but I know my stuff in therapy. We are both well read and it's wonderful being married to a person with whom I can have a real conversation about anything.
♥ Who is the most sensitive? We both are but in different ways
♥ Where do you eat out most as a couple? Chili's
♥ Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple? We went to Italy in 2002...I would love to go back.
♥ Who has the worst temper? Without a doubt, I hold this dubious honor. He has a fuse about a mile long.
♥ Who does the cooking? We both do it during the week, but I do most of it on the weekends, and all of it for holidays and family gatherings.
♥Who is the neat freak? We go in phases..sometimes it's me, and sometimes it's him.
♥ Who is the more stubborn? This meme is not putting me in a very good light! Again, without a doubt, me.
♥ Where was your first date? The Black-Eyed Pea and then (I can't believe I'm announcing this to the world) we saw Mars Attacks.
♥ Who has the bigger family? I do. I have 2 siblings and he has 1.
♥ Do you get flowers often? Not really. I loved getting flowers when I was single, but now that I'm married and know how much that stuff costs, I'd rather have dinner out or a movie!
♥ How do you spend the holidays? Once we had kids, we decided that Christmas morning was to be spent at home, but otherwise we alternate Thanksgivings with our families and we spend Christmas Eve with his parents. My parents usually drive in a few days after Christmas and we celebrate with them.
♥ How long did it take to get serious? A few days. We had been friends so long, and it just hit me like a ton of bricks when I realized he was "the one"
♥ Who eats more? Me. Trevor is one of those fortunate people who sees food as a necessary part of staying alive. I see it as an opportunity to please the palate and I will eat even when I'm not hungry (which explains why I am eternally on a diet and he looks slim and trim!)
♥ Who’s better with the computer? Trevor
♥ Who drives when you are together? Trevor. He gets carsick unless he's driving, so it's sort of by default that he drives on long trips. Sometimes he has to have help (like the time we drove straight through from Houston to Denver), and I drove too, but most of our trips are 5 hours or less so it's not a problem.
Happy Valentine's Day!